Nodicah Fundama & Portia Nkambule
Emalahleni – “We must stop saying that men should not cry, because it hurts us when we keep things inside. We should open up about the things that hurt us.”
These words— spoken by Siphesihle Zulu, a Grade 9 learner at Pine Ridge Combined School— captured the heart of a transformative programme held on 5 September 2025.
In a collaborative effort, Glencore and Octraco, together with the Kakarambha Foundation, hosted “A Gentleman’s Talk”, a programme aimed at shaping mindsets, building a character and inspiring positive masculinity among young boys.
The programme tackled pressing problems facing boys today: gender-based violence (GBV), substance abuse, mental health, positive masculinity and respectful behaviour.
Deputy Principal Mtau Smanga welcomed the initiative, noting its potential to fill a gap in the lives of young boys. “This programme is very fruitful. Sometimes boys feel neglected, but I believe it will bring change. Many boys do not speak out, but I think this will open their eyes and show them that if they have a challenge, they must talk and not keep quiet, they must not suffer in silence.”
Thando Masango from the Kakarambha Foundation, who was once a victim of substance abuse, highlighted the importance of raising awareness among parents and teachers. He highlighted warning signs such as irritability, hyperactivity, loss of appetite and sleep disturbances. Masango warned about the misuse of substances, including codeine-based cough mixtures with and even soft drinks.
“The goal is to engage with boys on a deeper level and provide them with the resources and support they need to avoid destructive paths and harmful behaviours,” Masango said.
Voices of change
Learners reflected on the impact of the programme. Zulu shared: “I have become wiser and learnt a lot about gender-based violence. It teaches us not to abuse girls. We also learnt about dating, that some people may hurt us, and how important it is to grow together as boys. We must stop saying that men should not cry, because it hurts us a lot when we keep things inside. We should open up about the things that hurt us.”
Fiona Jaha from Glencore Tweefontein echoed similar sentiments, saying: “GBV is not a female-only issue; it is a male and female issue. Young boys must be informed of the consequences of their actions early, so that as adults they can mature with the message: I respect myself, and I respect women and girls.”
More than just school bags
The learners received 300 complementary school bags.
The programme emphasised that supporting boys requires a holistic approach, one that nurtures emotional, social, and psychological well-being.
Through role models, safe spaces, and meaningful conversations, initiatives like “A Gentleman’s Talk” equip boys to grow into responsible men who contribute positively to their communities.
