PHOLA – Victims and survivors took the opportunity to share their heart-rending stories of abuse in the face of gender-based violence (GBV). This happened at an event organised by Xhola Xolela Xolisa (XXX), a non-profit organisation based in Phola, Emalahleni, on Wednesday, June 12.
The event, held at Sibonelo Nursery Pre-School, saw participants raise concerns about how frequently GBV dialogues are held.
“GBV happens almost every day in the whole world, but only certain days of the year are dedicated to speaking about the scourge,” said XXX founder and GBV victim Thokozile Sikhosana. “The scourge happens almost every day, every minute of our lives. Why must we wait for a certain time to talk about it?” she asked.
Thokozile, who is also living with a disability, further expressed that men should also be part of such GBV events and campaigns because they appear to be the “main perpetrators” of GBV.
Nandipha Madubela (23), another GBV victim, stated that her biological mother dumped her in a dustbin in 2001 before she was adopted. “The woman who found and raised me died when I was in Grade 1,” she said. “Then after she died, I was taken to their siblings where their husbands started to rape me. I then became a street kid before I was found by Xhola Xolela Xolisa.”
Nandipha further stated she does not have a birth certificate and therefore is having difficulty getting an ID. “I’m asking anyone who can help me with an ID,” she pleaded.
The stories and experiences shared by the GBV survivors provoked emotions which left everyone in tears.
The South African Police Services, Department of Health, Department of Social Services, Department of Justice, Home Affairs, Social Security Services, Emalahleni Municipality, and victim support centres were among the stakeholders who made presentations about their organisations and the services they offer. The Queen from SoGutjhe Royal House also graced the occasion.
Community members were also urged to report any form of GBV and abuse, especially against people living with disabilities.
